We all have good and bad days because that’s part of life. I personally have been experiencing anxiety and I know that a lot of you can relate, especially since we are still in a pandemic and there’s so much unknown surrounding the rest of 2020. I’ve come to truly embrace and honor feelings because I believe it’s a beautiful thing to be able to experience a variety of emotions. If you look at it on a spectrum, there’s tons of wavelengths that corresponds to different emotions and we as humans, will experience the majority of them, if not all in our lifetime.
One specific feeling I want to address is emptiness because it’s a feeling that I don’t think gets acknowledged as often as it’s felt. It’s definitely not a pleasant feeling by any means because I would associate it with feeling numb and nothing in one. And if I’m going to be quite honest, that’s the feeling that I have been observing for the past week or so. I’ve been meditating a lot and one big takeaway I got from a session was:
You are not your feelings. You are the witness and observer of the feeling.”
That truly stuck out to me because that it could not anymore true. Instead of saying that “I am empty” I am able to now shift it to “I observe emptiness.” Once I was able to adopt that mindset and take it from a perspective of an observer, I was able to look at my situation and mood in a different light, which brings me the below tips on how to handle feelings of emptiness.
What to do with Feelings of Emptiness
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 Don’t attack yourself for feeling negative and empty, instead acknowledge them and honor them for they are valid. Usually, your feelings are reflectors of your inner hurt, pain and bottled up feelings and suppressed emotions.
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Try to pinpoint the reason for the hole that’s in your heart. Is it loss of purpose, or a lost relationship, or is it having no direction, or that nothing sparks joy?
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Ask yourself if you feel wanted, or are loved for who you are. Is it because others haven’t confirmed their love for you? Is it because you haven’t truly looked within yourself and accept/ love yourself, flaws and all?
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Don’t escape into distractions like burying yourself in work or ignoring the emptiness as that only briefly covers the wound that’s deep inside.
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Listen carefully to your self talk – notice negative put downs, or a lack of self respect, or when you’re hard upon yourself. Talk to yourself as you would talk to your child or loved one.
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Choose to build yourself up and focus more upon self care and self love. Be compassionate, caring, and kind towards yourself.
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Invest in relationships which build your self esteem and self worth, and those that you can truly be yourself around.
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Remind yourself you’re worthy of a happy and full life. You deserve your goals and dreams. Decide to work to make them real.
11 comments
These are all great ideas! I know I’ve been feeling this more and more lately.
Jennifer
Curated by Jennifer
I hope these tips help you!
And know that it’s okay! We need to honor our feelings so we can better assess how to handle them.
I think it’s so important to sit and reflect about these thoughts and feelings when they come. Or you might miss something or end up hurting worse!
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I totally agree! Self reflection is a big part of self development and growth 🙂
Oh I love this quote is is so true! I think we are all feeling a bit like this right now. We are living through some very very trying times.
Allie of
http://www.allienyc.com
I agree! It’s all part of life but I think the best part to remember is that there are ways to handle these emotions.
You’re absolutely right. This modern obsession with happiness and projecting positive vibes all the time is actually making people feel more miserable because they feel that any feeling that isn’t happiness is something to be ashamed of. The truth is, like you have wisely point out, that we experience a whole range of emotions and they exist for a reason. Sometimes we feel blue, sometimes empty and sometimes sad. No feeling is a reason to feel less about ourselves. Sometimes we just need to live through some feelings.
I appreciate your comment Ivana! I’m glad to hear that you can relate and this resonates with you. Like you said, we are all humans and we experience a wide range of emotions and that’s totally fine 🙂
I have definitely been feeling depressed and anxious this year… It’s so hard when life is this unpredictable with the pandemic. I love your tip about examine how we put ourselves down in our minds. I listened to a podcast where the host talked about asking yourself if you would talk to a friend like you talk to yourself. We would never tell our friends that they aren’t trying hard enough!
Jill
https://jilliancecilia.com/
Yes!! I say that all the time because it’s true. We are our worst critics and we really need to value ourselves and be kinder to ourselves!